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Five Ways Unhealed Trauma Affects Our Lives

by Areesha Naveed

Trauma is more common than you actually think it is. It has nothing to do with the quantum size, rather the value attached to it. Trauma is real and here’s a shout-out to all the people who are suffering in silence. YOU are important, YOU are valid and YOU are enough

It’s not all rainbows and bliss when it comes to dealing with life. Often times the tests life puts us through are too much to bear, whether be it a death, failed relationship, neglect, abuse, or rejection. We tend to block it from our awareness because the excruciating pain no matter how hard we try to block, the damage keeps haunting our subconscious. With that being said, here are 5 signs of unhealed Trauma.

Low Self Esteem

Blaming oneself or feeling inferior is the easiest thing to do (unfortunately). Neglect, abandonment, and abuse are all shards that remind you why you shouldn’t belong where you actually do. Individuals tend to question their own self-worth and the intensity is more severe if it is inflicted by a loved one.

You have trouble asking for help

Individuals who suffer from mistreatment and abuse find it easier to suffer in silence than seek help because of fear of rejection, denial, or sense of not being validated enough. They would choke on their words rather than asking for help as they feel weak, due to their past unhealthy experiences.

Repress your feelings

People tend to become emotionally numb. A traumatic event can bring anyone down to their knees, they feel vulnerable, confused, violated, fearful, and ashamed when it’s just too much for them to bear all at once. Hence, people find it easy to bury or block away from their feelings than to face them and act as if everything is on track and needs no fixing.

Mostly anxious and assuming the worst

Trauma should never be downplayed or kept aside. It’s more powerful than we think. It might take years of therapy to come to peace with it and finally heal ourselves. However, due to the experience and it’s severity, over time, some part of you will always think that the worse will happen or how quickly things could go wrong (which is also why you resist positive change) this also triggers the factor of you not trusting anyone or even forgiving anyone no matter their efforts of cutting down your negative beliefs.

Difficulty Concentrating

With all the emotional fluctuations and turmoil going in there, it has damaging psychological effects. It is hard for you to concentrate and even remember the very basics of your life. It is not uncommon for the victims to suddenly have difficulty concentrating. Unable to fill the gaps in your memory, frequent blackouts, and sudden forgetfulness are all early signs of your brain seeking for help or to work through your trauma.

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